adiorablegrant asked: What I also think is strange is that, with interviewers, (this isn't just with Kanye but on these talk shows) They really don't listen well to the person they're interviewing. I also wonder why so many people feel like they have the right to dictate and judge what kind of life someone else lives. I think this is why when you support someone in any way, it makes a huge difference to their confidence and self-esteem. Because then they think "Wow someone actually believes in me."
When someone is speaking to another person, you’re gonna find that they will usually say “I hear what you are saying” instead of, “I’m listening to what you are saying”. There’s a huge difference between hearing and listening. People just need to really LISTEN to not just the words that people are saying but to their voice and to the emotion, and the body language they’re showing you cus that usually tells you more. The reason WHY people won’t understand is cus that takes a lot of effort in terms of attention, processing, analysing and concentrating, and that requires too much “work” for some people therefor it’s just easier to say, “huh? i don’t get what you’re saying” or “im still tryna get what you mean by…”
People do what they do because in their mind they feel what they’re doing is right, or to benefit themselves, or both. We don’t always take the time to understand why the other person is the way they are cus we think tryna understand them means you’re siding with them.
Understanding someone is more about gaining knowledge & once you’ve got that, you can decide what exactly you wanna do with it. You can’t be rude or say hurtful shit to anotha person if you don’t try to again, UNDERSTAND why they say or do w/e they do cus everyone got a reason.
Sometimes people say they “put themselves in the otha person’s shoes & do understand” when in all actuality you really just stay YOU. Just like those people who rob banks or sell drugs. You think a lot of em love doin that shit? Sometimes they ain’t got no otha choice #dontjudge. They come outta jail, tryna better themselves, nobody wanna hire em, got like 3 kids to feed fuck you think they gonna do??? That don’t make it right but UNDERSTAND WHY.
People who just talk shit & look down on other people every other day like they Mother Teresa get on my nerves it’s like PLEASE get the fuck outta here.